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Thoughts from Dr. Joe: Finding clarity in a mea culpa

February 07, 2013|By Joe Puglia

My favorite TV show has always been “Happy Days.” It aired in the 1970s and into the ‘80s. It was a coming-of-age story about the lives of four boys growing up in Milwaukee. One of the main characters in the series was nicknamed “The Fonz” and played by Henry Winkler. He was a caricature from another era and was the bad boy of the neighborhood. When he made a mistake, as he often did, he would slur his apology. In a nearly inaudible voice he would mumble, “I’m sorry.”

I’m going to apologize more loudly.

Last week I wrote a scathing column about the La Cañada High School varsity soccer program. I hammered the coach and the team over what I thought had been unsportsmanlike conduct. I objected to the team sitting down without shaking their opponents’ hands at the end of the game. My thoughts were accusatory. I questioned the character of the team and the coach.

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My facts were wrong and, after considerable reflection and analysis, I fall on my sword and in an audible voice I apologize for my error. I should have dug deeper to find out the reasoning behind the decision not to shake hands on the field that day. I’ve since learned the coach was trying to maintain calm after a heated game.

As J.R.R. Tolkien said, “All who wander are not lost.” When one pursues the truth long enough they often find it.

To the team: My apologies to you for disparaging your character. I trust that you are valiant players and my characterization of you as being dishonorable was wrong. Actually, as I craft these thoughts I am sitting in the stands watching you play San Marino. Your team is quite good.

Guys, life is not always fair and sometimes you are going to take some pretty rough hits that are unwarranted. You have to take another’s “best shot” and move on. Regardless of the heat that is placed on you, never allow another to define you with his negativity. Life becomes progressively more difficult as you age and now is the time to define a center that enables you to excel when you are under scrutiny. Nothing can destroy you but you.

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