Q. My husband died three years ago and lately it seems like all my friends are dying, too. My kids live in Northern California and are trying to talk me into moving closer to them, perhaps to a retirement community. I’ve lived in my house for nearly 50 years and every nook and cranny is filled with memories. I don’t know if I want to move and I don’t know where I would even start with sorting and packing.
Yours is a very common dilemma facing people these days. You have lived here for so long that you feel that your roots go deep. Take time to examine those roots. Are you connected to a church? Are you involved with local philanthropic or civic organizations? You say your friends are dying and your kids are far away. Are there really any people still here with whom you have connections?
If not, it might make sense to move closer to your children and grandchildren. You might want a house, a condo or perhaps a retirement community. Look on the internet to see what your options are where they live. There might be more of a variety of senior living options than there are here. You won’t know until you start to look. Go visit them and see what there is available.