A continuation of a three-way communication between the columnist, a young man who wrote to her for advice, and a young woman with whom the man is – or would like to be – acquainted.
If you knew this young woman well and had a close relationship with her, your comment about her figure might not have been offensive. She may have felt that because you mentioned her “hour-glass” figure first, that you only had one thing in mind.
When you made this comment, what was your body language? Did you look her over when you made that comment? You noted in your letter that her clothing was not provocative. Yet she obviously was insulted by your remark and thought that you misread her completely. It would be well to keep this in mind: Most respectful and smart women want to connect on a non-intimate level in order to develop what they think will be long-lasting relationship..