Self-restraint is a personal virtue showing physical, emotional and verbal self-control. Children often have a natural impatient sense of entitlement, self-gratification and self-absorption. Only after they are taught through examples are they able to develop empathy and sensitivity for others through their words and actions.
These traits are not inbred, as a child is born naturally self-centered. Civility requires self-restraint throughout life, and is an essential character trait for successful relationships, which can lead to a happy and fulfilling life.
Disappointments and unexpected occurrences happen frequently in life. No one can guarantee us a perfect life. Often we encounter others' rudeness, aggressiveness and self-righteous behavior that threatens our peace and well-being. I fully understand that it is not what happens in life, but how you handle what happens in life that determines success and happiness in relationships.
Self-restraint is about controlling negative impulses, delaying gratification and regulating explosive emotions in order to facilitate the thinking processes. This is not often easy. Setting goals to create a commitment of personal power by controlling self-restraint will help to create positive outcomes in lifetime relationships. A psychological fundamental skill is resisting impulse, which is the root of all emotional self-control.