Part 4 Making poor decisions, accepting responsibility and the consequences is an essential part of maturity. Finding solutions to problems, learning from failures, and handling disappointments are essential tools enabling a child to protect himself against bullies.
Allowing children to have choices, with parental guidance, can help them through the decision-making process. Consequences for poor decisions are the foundation for handling all moral dilemmas. Teach a child that failure is a gift, and learning from that failure is a greater gift. It helps to ensure there will not likely be a repetition of the same mistake.
Mastery of decision-making is a skill that builds self-esteem. This includes the confidence to handle a bully who uses intimidation.
A parent who helps a child develop empathy for others is one of the greatest gifts. In a situation where two friends are hurting each other using their fists and mean words can be a teaching lesson in empathy. Situations in which a parent says, "How do you think she feels when he says those mean words with those hurting fists?"